I don’t know about you, but learning to stop taking things so personally is something I had to learn the hard way! Not only was it impacting my mental health, but taking everything anyone said to heart was really ruining my creativity and happiness! Here are a few ways that I learned to chill out!
Know What You’re Worth
I think we all spent years thinking that we weren’t good enough for something right? Maybe you weren’t cool enough to sit at some table in middle school, or maybe you just couldn’t make it on MySpace! We’ve all been there. Let me just tell you that you were cool enough all along.
Someone has probably said something to you in the past that you can’t forget. When we learn to stop taking things personally, we can overcome all of that self doubt. By knowing that you are just as amazing as everyone else, you’ll be shocked by the things you can overcome.
This is something we really see on platforms such as Instagram. It is so easy to think that someone’s life is better than ours. You don’t have to be like someone else, you’re just fine the way you are!
Learn That Everyone Is Different
The best thing about the world is that we are all different. Not everyone thinks the same, and that seriously is what makes the world go round. With that being said, just because someone says something to try that you don’t agree it doesn’t mean it is an insult to you.
When you stop taking things personally not only is it going to improve the relationship you have with others, but it also is going to help your own mental health. What you do in your life is great, but you can’t always expect others to do the same.
At the end of the day, whatever someone thinks of you is really not your concern anyway. Nor is it their right to make you feel like anything less than great. You can also think of this as keeping your own internal power. If you have the power in a situation, then no one can change that for you.
You’re allowed to feel things
As someone who has struggled with anxiety and depression from a very early age, I know that sometimes you just cannot help it. There are some days where I feel like I can take over the world, and there are some days where my dog can offend me by not letting me pet him.
Days like this are really the days that you need to learn to stop taking things so personally. A bad day does not equal a bad life, and I think that a lot of us tend to forget that. Each time you wake up it is like hitting the reset button. Take the time you need to feel your own emotions, and eventually you can learn to control those!
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SundayDahlias
This is still hard for me to do all the time. But it’s def something to work on for my health
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ashleestuart
SundayDahliasSame here girl! Hopefully one day I can just eliminate it!
Kathryn
This is such a good reminder. It’s hard to move past things people have said, even unintentionally, that have shaken our self confidence. Truly such a process to know our worth and hold that tightly!
Kathryn • simplykk.com
ashleestuart
KathrynFor real! A lot of what I take personally aren’t even meant to be negative in anyway!
Shannon
Such an important post – I’m trying to do the same thing. Easier said than done at times! One thing that has helped me a lot are personality tests so I understand how I feel and how to proactively work with it! x Shannon • www.essellesse.com
ashleestuart
ShannonThanks Shannon! I love taking tests like that too! It has really helped me learn to deal with myself as well as how I deal with others!
Ash Ronnel
Thank you for this post! I can totally relate, but your tips for stopping this are amazing. <3
ashleestuart
Ash RonnelThanks so much! It definitely happens to all of us, maybe one day we can all stop it at once!
Radi
This has been so me this whole year. Got to change that because it isn’t doing me any good.
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ashleestuart
RadiIt happens to me from time to time as well!
Mercy
This is very uplifting! Realising these things is a sign of growing up and being wise. I like that you mention Instagram too, not comparing ourselves with what we see in there is a clever decision.
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ashleestuart
Mercy100%! It really is a sign of growing up, so well put!
Merel
Such an inspiring blogpost!
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ashleestuart
MerelThank you so much Merel!
Mariann Yip
Thanks for sharing this! I think more people can learn to not take things too personally.
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ashleestuart
Mariann YipAbsolutely, a lot of people need that lesson right now!
Caitlin | Beauty & Colour
Love these tips. I think this is something most of us struggle with xx
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ashleestuart
Caitlin | Beauty & ColourOh for sure! It’s hard not to do it sometimes.
Jessica
This is such a great read dear. I couldn’t agree more, especially with the 2nd point.
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
ashleestuart
JessicaThanks so much girl!
Yara Mabote
Beautiful post. Super inspiring words 🙂 Gladly I live by this advice!
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ashleestuart
Yara MaboteThanks so much!